Girl Child Education, Dating & Courting In Basic Schools.

In recent times we have heard complaints about Teachers dating students " primary level to senior high school level " this usually leads to school drop out, abortion, early marriage, early parenting and social misfit. A student in junior high school told me how a teacher touched her buttons and she told the teacher she will tell her parents, since then the teacher always punish this girl for no reason. Now the girl wants to quit the school. And she can't also report the teacher because none of the other teachers or head will believe her.

Other teachers also believe that these little girls are already in such behaviours, a teacher also told me, the girl she is dating in their school is not even a Virgin. So these little girls already know what sex is and have experience it. As a nation, as a aspiring parent, as a brother or sister to such a innocent girl, what measures should the government and others agencies take to put a stop to this indecent behaviour by teachers and students. Who should be blamed. Teachers, The Little Girls or Parents

(Luqman Bukuya..) Well, I think everybody is to be blamed here. 1. Firstly, the parents are the ones who has full responsibility and control over the child at home, they have the power over the child, they should know who the friends are. Cos one of reasons causing the negative lifestyle of a child is peer pressure influence. But sometimes broken homes can also be the cause, if the father and mother are separated it could lead the girl child to such behaviors, cos the father is one has a full responsibility both on the mother and the child, so parents should observe their children well, sit with with them, counsel them, share their problems and advice them on sex. 2. Secondly, teachers too should also share the blame for that, because as a teacher your duty is to help your students to achieve their goals and not to be friends with them, talk less of having affair with your female student. Any responsible and well trained teacher will not stand so low for that, that is why I don't support the idea of a teacher asking his female student to come to his house to wash and tidy his room for him. Are there not male students? Why can't he ask the male students? That is where the dating starts, up to the point of sleeping with and making them pregnant. And must we talk about male teachers alone? NO, we also hear female teachers too trying to seduce her male student into sleeping with her. All these things are not to be taken lightly. 3.Lastly the little girls too should also know their reasons for going to school, I think if anybody who wants to achieve something he/she is working in, he puts all his focus and strength in that particular thing. They the girls too sometimes try seducing their teachers, I can be a witness to this. Back at my jhs, there was this girl in our class, very beautiful, but she was a spoilt brat. One day our science teacher came in to teach and this girl was sitting in the front row, she opened her thighs wide enough that the teacher saw her under pants. The teacher had to insult her and disgraced her before the whole class and she felt embarrassed. At that point she was trying to seduce him, but he didn't stand so low for that. So the girls too should please know that they are there to learn and to be successful in future. I think government and institutions like CHRAJ and other agencies should sit up and deal with these things when such things are being reported to them. Any teacher who is found guilty of such act must be dealt with and the law.

(Awal:..) Yes, I have seen and also heard similar cases. It's a reality! But the question of what government and other bodies should do to put a stop to the indecent behavior of both the teachers and students? I like to start by saying that, the ruin of a nation and its people begins in their homes. So first things first,parents should be responsible enough for their kids,close monitoring should be given to wards. A lot more of time,some parents just leave their kids to their fate, so in trying to find for themselves indulge in this heart aching habits of allowing themselves for their teachers in schools. Again,on the part of the nation,we have a nonfunctional institutions. We have the CHRAJ and the WAJU,now DOVVSU,both to protect the rights of the citizenry,and mostly the vulnerable. But what have they done in that regard? Little! So I think those bodies should in whatever ways,be visiting schools to constantly be in touch with students and to know the problems students go through under their teachers and proper measures taken. But let be not be hesitant to add that, for all we know, there are some students who don't know what their rights are.So much education should be given them to know what to do and what not to do,and of course, at what time. Also, The teacher unions, that is the GNAT and NAGRAT should be very functional. They should be fast to punish any member who involves in any of such unfortunate behavior. To conclude, the question of who should be blamed? I will say much of the blame,if not all, should be for parents,as I already indicated earlier. It's on parents and parenting that every other societal action is build on. If a child is to be good,it will be from parents,and vice versa!

(Tamanda:...) As a girl who has been taught by all types of tachers with different beliefs and cultures and morals, it should completely be avoided ever blaming a girl. One of the worst things that as communities, governments, parents or teachers can do is blaming a girl for any advances or indecency that occurs with a male teacher. There are several factors that lead to such, pressure from fellow classmates who are already advanced sexuallly and will boast about their sexual achievements making their friends envious. I think school systems must be firm on consequences of teachers making advances at school children. And parents should also step in to bring up their children in safe environments. It is at times psychological factors that would lead a child to go to the extremes of making advances at a teacher. But all in all...this does not imply it is all relationships that are indecent. There is what they call, love is blind right? Others have ended up marrying who they called their teacher at some point. If such relationships are to exist, they must exist in a decent, moral manner. Not just for a teacher to take advantage of a student or for a student to get her way into getting higher grades.

(Inge Van Leusen:...) I think these things happen everywhere in this world. You can't blame the parents, they are at home or work trusting the teachers to teach there children and be in a safe place. Now that safe place is becoming unsafe too because the teachers are behaving in a way they shouldn't. Teachers should not touch their students. If they do the students are allowed to tell. Especially when they are minors. They should tell other teachers and their parents so they can discuss what is happening. This is not fun for the teacher who is blamed for but it was his/her fault so then also take the concequenses. Here when something like that happens teachers get expelled, they can't do that. There the teachers get the most credibility so when they lie they touched the children they are the ones with more respect and so the others believe them. Its a pity this happens but who can blame children of ages up to say 14.. When they become older they can make advances to the teachers as well.. Then they aren't little children anymore but its still the task of a teacher not to do anything with them.

(Shamseeyat Baba Dua:....) it's all boils down to responsible parenting.if a parent has time for his children,they become their best of friends and so they can share everything they are going through with their parents. Sexual abuse in our schools today is becoming increasingly alarming.Some of these teachers just can't control their libido and so they tend to molest these little girls but all in all,we all have to take some part of the blame but most especially our parents and the human right institutions who sometimes fail to bring these shameless teachers to book.

(Deenil Islam:....) The problem has been identified. Now, who drives the change? The parent? The teacher? Or the student? No! you and I need to engineer the change process. Why so? And How? All the 3 are to be blamed; a parent watches telenova with his/her adolescent boy/girl and expects that nothing should happen when he/she knows what triggers ones desires. For God sake your responsibility is not only financial but social, mental, social, and education most importantly spiritual and sex education follows in that regard. Am I suggesting a parenting course for couples? Maybe. Don't let your children curse you one day because you didn't fulfill your obligations. Teacher has nudes on his phone or laptop. Watching it anytime he wants to. What do you expect when he goes to class in that mood facing a group of adolescent girls. Now the youth. What is their problem? Their problem is mostly their environment. Their friends, their relatives, their neighbours. And now the internet and technology. Take a newborn. He knows nothing but for what he learns. The society should watch out for what it teaches the youth. A wise person said: " if you want to defeat a nation, make nudity common. The internet is like a knife. It can be used for good or bad. Humans are weak so let's help each in good not in bad.

(Romeo Romeo:....) Well, teachers should be blamed. This is one kind of relationship that our society frowns upon much the same way it condemns child abuse or paedophilia. He must not send wrong signals by converting this delicate relationship into a romantic one. Students are immature and overwhelmed by their teacher’s personality, they look up to the teacher with admiration; so it is highly immoral to take advantage of these innocent feelings and deepen it to an adult romance. Education institutions should have a policy that bans such romance repulsively, is unprofessional and there should be prosecuted as a criminal. Is the right of the teacher to help the child in the pursuit n love of knowledge n not make himself the destination

(Achirison Baakobli Tampuli:.....) All ( teachers, parents and the girls) are to blame. some Teachers who were supposed to be the role models and advocates of living exemplary lifes are deeply involved in this canker. Some teachers start by playing with the girls as their wifes and before realisations is made, those teachers are sleeping with the vulnerable school girls. in addition, some parents have to be blamed too. Some parents do not take good care of their wards. Those parents don't take much care in raising their girls. The girls are given freedom to do what ever they plan doing and because peer influence is great at the adolescence stage ( school girls). The girls are exposed to all manner of lifes and try to practice some of the undesirable lifes they witness or hear about. So if all parents would have sacrificed their times in providing proper monitoring and care about the where about of their teenage girls, the canker can be reduced to bearers minimum if not completely stopped. further more, the teenage girls in the schools also have their share of the blame. Some school girls admire and give their selves out to the teachers to have sex. The teachers do not force some of these girls. The girls rather seduce some teachers they admire into having them slept with. Finally, the government can nip this problem in the bud by enacting laws and enforcing them into punishing any person who has a fault in these act. Be it be the teacher, the parent or the school girl.

(Mur Phid:....) I think first of all teachers, parents and the government should come to agreement and look at the school uniform or dress the students wear. Some students exposes their body or wear tight fitting dresses to school. Everything starts with the look or what the eyes sees. If you do not see something that is covered how then can it attract you. Also girls that are force by the teacher into this by saying No should know that it is not going to be easy on her by the teacher, so should try her best and be patient and faces what comes next and with time everything will be back to normal for her again which is best than saying Yes and later on her future will be destroyed. Also in the schools there should be a mechanism where teachers that behave badly could be reported and investigated if students raise a concern. Parents too should monitor their children properly can help solve the issue than playing no role at all.