Marriage, Working Woman and Good Parenting

Tamanda Chabvuta says " It's sad to note that we are living in times where people jump at marriage when they are not ready for it and jump out the first time reality sinks in. " Mur Phid says " We go to religious leaders for marriages. Do we go to them for solutions when there is a problem ? If religious leaders are the ones that put together our marriage then thier the only ones that can divorce us again not even our ownselves,police or court. "

Luqman Bukuya says " Men doesn't marry their type of women, and a vice versa. Some men too spend a lot on women during their relationship or during their wedding. I don't know whether to please the woman or to show off. And when the woman doesn't get such money to spend anymore after the marriage, problems starts. " Shamseeyat Baba Dua says " Most marriages of our time are built on deceit in the sense that couples at the courtship stage fail to disclose to each other about the reality of their lives and that may include;financial status,past relationships and many others. i think our religious leaders do have a part to play for they sometimes fail to educate prospective married couples about the essence of marriage "creasingly alarming.Some of these teachers just can't control their libido and so they tend to molest these little girls"

Muhammad Naafi'u says " I may not have much problem in marrying a woman without cooking ability but ready to learn. Though I prefer those with good cooking skills" Luqman Bukuya says " Marrying a woman who can't cook but is hard working business minded is a total disaster. I know a dagomba man will say "KAVINI" Inge van Leusen says " No I wouldn't marry a guy if he doesn't want to help with the kids/household.. Life is not only about the things you want to do. Sometimes its necessary.

Abubakari Balchisu PrettyKyzz says " I will still go ahead and marry the man if I really love him, Love is sacrifice. I won't want to be a house wife even if am given the whole world." S Awal Mburidiba says " Yes! I would go ahead and marry her upon all the lapses. Our problem is,society perceive women as those responsible for all that, call it Gender Stereotype" Alhassan Sualehu Progress says "Yes I will go in to the kitchen and cook for my wife, Remember our wife's are not our maids. It's obvious that woman is a lazy and dirty woman. So can't marry her"

Everest Efia Ayrakwa says " First of all I will not be any mans housewife .Therefore I will not marry a man who wants me to stay in the house and be his decoration." Rabi Moda Abdallah says " yes i will marry him after all is my to do all that. his is to help me and since he is not willing to help then no problem. " Tamanda Chabvuta says " No. I would not marry a man who has made it clear he won't help around the house even for kids. Some tasks in the home can be shared.

Ayisha Nantogmah says " They are so many instances where single parent who brought up a child is far far better then couples who brought up one" Luqman Bukuya says " Most mothers pamper their children to the extend that they will never see their mistakes even when the child goes wrong"

Abdulai Ibn Mas-ud Mpara says "Children Pay heed to mothers than any body in the family...So blame mother much and father little" Brago Josephine says " No parent ever wish for their children or child to be called "bad". So right from childhood parents especially mothers are suppose to be very attentive and careful to monitor their children's actions " Muhammad Naafi'u says " Divorce itself as a crisis has diverse effect on the upbringing of a child. many divorces have led to delinquency or waywardness in children. like i said earlier, the blame of the negative behaviour of a child in a divorce family is subjective" Inge says " Haha am laughing.. Blame the mother more and father less?? R u for real?? The child is a beautiful piece of both so they both leave their imprints on the child. Besides that don't forget the other adults that are of influence in children's lives. Teachers, uncles, aunts, grandparents etc. They all leave marks on the empty sheet that once was brought to this earth. There are much more influences wether a child turns out to be 'good' or 'bad' then just the parents.."